July 9, 2005 was the day I met Mel, in person, by then we had already been seeing each other vocally. We had a phone-only relationship for about 2 months before we personally met. That day marked our first date and the first day of our life together. We both went to the same high school, he was a Senior and I was a Freshman but we had never seen each other. Everyone knew him, he was a soccer star might I add but because I lived in my own little world and I was a nerdy girl I no idea who he was. I had a class with who I later learned was his sister. Once upon a time when AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) was hot I got a chat from a unknown person. Being the bad girl I was (jk) I decided I was going to follow his flow. He wouldn't tell me who he was, he just wanted my number. We chatted for days, weeks before I finally gave in. I said to myself i don't care if he's a serial killer, i'ma give it a try-what's the worst he can do? kill me? hahaha ha hahhh..... Turned out the first time he called me I instantly fell in love with his voice. He was extremely nice and he sounded very outgoing. We exchanged pictures via AIM. He sent me what was probably the ugliest picture of himself. He was playing soccer and his face expression was not pretty. Did I care? A little bit. But it didn't stop me from talking to him. Finally we decided to meet. I was going to a movie with some church friends and he decided he was going to crash the evening with my permission-I thought it was a perfect day because I had people with me in case he turned out to be 1. a serial killer or 2. ugly. I would've just dipped. Ok, not really, I would never do that. Black shirt, pink tie, I repeated to myself over and over in my head. That's what he said he would be wearing. My palms were sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy, there's vomit on his sweater already, mom's spaghetti. Oh sorry, I got side tracked, saying that my palms were sweaty made me start rapping that Eminem song. Anyway, my palms were really sweaty though. When I finally saw him, July 9, 2005, alls I could think was he's so cute. I introduced him to my friends, we walked into the theatre, saw Fantastic Four...seemed like we'd gone on a thousand dates before this day. I felt like I knew him. Sweet as can be. Almost 7 years later and he's still the sweetest man I've ever met. He's still the same person. He'll always be the person that's there for me. The person that will make me mad and happy all in matter of 5 minutes. Our pre-marriage relationship was difficult, we had so many obstacles along the way to the point where we had to make a decision-stay and fight for our right to be together or dismiss the whole thing (dramatic right? Could we have made it on reality TV?). We fought. I'm so HAPPY we fought. I can't see myself in another lifestyle. He proposed on Feb 28, 2009 in Pennsylvania at the Sight and Sound Theatre where we saw a play about Jesus' life. His motive for proposing there was to get a good start, a fresh start. Individually, we both have a relationship with God, we both grew up with Christian values but that day at the theatre we both, as a couple, put our relationship and future in God's hands. We got married on July 10, 2010. Joyful day. What an experience it is to get married. I love married life. The transition was easy, living together is easy, we compromise very well. It's so much fun. We live in La La Land, we don't fight, we don't argue, we don't get annoyed with each other...ok, really, were you beginning to believe that last part? We have our moments. But there's NOTHING that can't be fixed or made better.
First comes love, then comes marriage..
Only the Lord knows when the little people will come. One day. You say after a year of marriage start having kids but we've been so caught up in ourselves that almost 2 years have gone by and it still doesn't feel like the right time. But the right time can be tomorrow or next year. It's been a blast and I can only look forward to chapter 8972875483 of our book.
First comes love, then comes marriage..
Only the Lord knows when the little people will come. One day. You say after a year of marriage start having kids but we've been so caught up in ourselves that almost 2 years have gone by and it still doesn't feel like the right time. But the right time can be tomorrow or next year. It's been a blast and I can only look forward to chapter 8972875483 of our book.
"Forever is only the beginning" - Breaking Dawn, of course
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